Lending money to providers? (2024)

The question is..... Why doesn't she have the money. These girls make that in a day or 2. Does she have a drug problem or something. If so.... that's a don't do it from me...

Thanks for your reply. I know she's bitched in the past that business can be spotty at the Flushing AMP where she usually works... I've never thought drug problems- I know she has kids.

I've loaned more than that and never had a problem being repaid. Having said that, (i) it wasn't after 4 or 5 sessions, they were women I knew well and had seen outside the spas on the regular and (ii) if I never got repaid, I'd be pissed, but it wasn't going to break me. The answer is a function of your risk tolerance and the relationship you have (or want to have) with the woman.

I wouldn't trust them.

I used to go often to the Dominican Republic, and met chicks who worked in hotels, or were part of entertainment groups.
I would develop nice friendships with them which included intimacy.

I remember one in particular who would WhatsApp me when I was back home, and ask for funds:
'My son is having dental surgery and it's very expensive, could you help me?'

I believe that some feel comfortable asking, when they see you have a warm heart, and have been kind to them.

If women who you know or would meet outside of mongering don’t do this, why would anyone think it’s not suspicious or not a red flag if a provider does it? No judgement on you but it’s strange to me that I’ve heard this exact request but with a lower amount from a provider of gentlemen’s choice once. She is/was a druggie not that I think it correlates with your provider but seems like providers who do this probably heard from other providers doing this with other mongers so as long as mongers let them get away with it they will continue playing mongers till the end of time.. not that I think my message will change the behavior of mongers who throw money happily at these girls.

It’s the basis of the trade and the relationship they have with us since forever.. there will be other women other there who will always fill in the shoes of the needs you want from this women so I don’t stress the burning of any relationships

I was going to type this. Never loaned anyone money only gifted what I was comfortable giving with no expectation of it ever being payed back and/or impacting the relationship. If the 1000 doesn't hurt you and won't come between you two than go ahead if not politely decline.

I had a long time relationship with an Asian provider. Gave freely to her when she was down and out.

Didn’t see her for a while. When she reappeared, she had all the accoutrements of higher wealth, expensive clothing, devices, watches, luggage, planning to buy an apartment, along with an attitude of arrogance and looking over her shoulder.

And, she wanted money. My intuition flared up sharply, and advised me not to give it to her. She was enraged. Blocked me. It bothered me that a once very sweet relationship was over. But, what did I actually lose?

This topic all boils down to trust, right?

So consider this; what if a provider said, 'I promise that you're the only one I engage in BBFS with'

Would you believe her??

No
“Neither a borrower nor a lender be”
you can sour a lot or relationships doing either.

Read @mugi 's post above.

I've lent to long term providers I've seen, in all cases, I've treated it as a pre-pay choice.

For one long term "Hanaha" back when she used advertise on the sites for a number of years. She then a few years ago went under the radar, no more advertising but kept a few of us regulars. Not sure if she asked them or just me, but she would give very preferential service and discounts. My lending her $200-300 would get me 5++ meets at half price, but just recently this backfired this year and after 5 years of knowing her. she took a pre-pay in March and has since ghosted (I have her real name and familiar with her legal/ family troubles) even blocking her Facebook account we used to stay on contact when her phone was shut off, so she's not on county vacation, just decided a few hundred was enough to disappear.

With another, again it was with someone whom I'd been seeing on the regular and first time she asked, I assisted and she immediately disappeared. Every once in a while she'll reach out to see if we can meet up, and I bring up the pre-pay/lent money and she just says it's gone, and won't pay it back, not even an offer to "reduce" the meet up costs until she's paid it off (no interest loan) too which I reply fine I won't meet you again until you do, this has been going on for about 3+ years now.

Another one, borrowed money and said she'd pay me back a few days later, either in cash or services... unfortunately that was the weekend that her life choices caught up with her and she OD'd.

So it'll depend on the person, but realize eventually they will take the money and disappear, but not always to screw you over

That reminds me of the Public Image Limited song "disappointed a few people when friendship reared its ugly head. Disappointed a few people, oh well, is that what, friends are for"

I would rather buy a woman in this industry flowers than lend her money.

Over the years, I have learned that people experience ups and downs—it's part of life. However, when someone asks me for a loan, I turn it back on them and say,
"I was going to ask you the same thing."

This way, we can both feel uncomfortable.

I don't even lend money to coworkers. Aint no way I'm lending money to a Woman who should be in the 5% at minimum earning potential in NYC. That's a resounding no. Saying NO to Women is ok. She'll be OK.